Friday, February 28, 2014

My 2014 Goals: I Firmly Resolve That I am Up to No Good

Not my actual goals. Source.

So it took me a while to come up with my resolutions for the new year because I don't want to be caught up in the sentiments of turning a new leaf and making new goals. I also want to examine myself first to know what I want to accomplish for 2014 because really, at the end of it all, it's all about what makes you happy, right?

Do I really want to lose weight by doing workout plans or crash diets that do not make me happy? No.
Do I want to get ahead in the rat race regardless if I take a route that does not feed my passion? Definitely not.
Do I want to join the bandwagon and dream of New York and Paris even if I have no genuine interest to travel there yet? Nope.
Do I really want to save up for a designer handbag? Why?

After reading Kelly McGonigal's TED Talks transcript saying that "People come up with resolutions that don’t reflect what matters most to them, and that makes them almost guaranteed to fail," I have resolved first and foremost to fail-proof my year, as much as I can, by Doing Things That Makes Me Happy. Kelly goes on to say "The best resolutions are ones that strengthen something you already are, but you may not have been fully investing in." 

I hear ya, Kelly. So for 2014, I resolve for my goals to answer these three prerequisites before I pursue them. 
Because, come on, knowing your music is a noble goal, but if you're not going to aim to write for Rolling Stone, there's really no point.

What makes me happy? 
What am I good at that I haven't been fully investing in?
At the end of 2014 — on January 1st, 2015, looking backwards — what am I seriously going to be grateful that you did?

So what do I firmly resolve to do this 2014?

 1. Save up.


When people tell me you can't buy happiness, they obviously enjoy being broke. OK, so that's not really what the saying means, but I like to live my life easy if I can. Easy as a status achieved by not just coasting along but achieved because it has been worked hard for. And when you work hard, you get money. Quarter Life Crisis has taught me that money makes everything easy if you don't have the charm nor the patience to deal with life.

THE GOAL: Save up at least 4-6 months' worth of my salary as contingency. Tyra Banks calls it her "FU Money." For when times are hard, for when you just want to quit your job, for when you just want to pack up and go to London to look for Tom Hiddleston. "FU, Life!" Here's my money!

Will accomplishing this goal make me happy and grateful that I did it?
Of course! Who doesn't want to end the year with more money than they started?

Which attribute am I good at will I be fully investing in if I pursue this goal?
I love ticking items off my list, so for this goal, I tricked myself into thinking that I am ticking to-do lists items from a 52-Week Save-Up Plan.

2. Keep learning.

Now that I have transferred to legit Marketing, granting it's Digital, I sometimes catch myself feeling a bit uneasy calling myself a marketer; it offends my Starving Artist Psyche. In my heart of hearts, I still want to be a published writer. So, Marketing. In a way, what I'm doing right now marries two things that I want to do: Write and Judge People According to Their Preferences Infer About People's Behavior and Motivations. I am just missing the marketing piece to make me Super Human give my activations and strategies more meat. For that, I will use Education! Science! Schools!

THE GOAL: Continue taking classes for my Strategic Marketing Post-Baccalaureate Degree in DLSU-CSB. It's the best continuing education path for non-marketers who, like me, have been somewhat steered towards the marketing road without meaning to. Call it Marketing for Non-Marketers. None of those vague theories; all action. And at the end of each course, you get to create plans and strategies that you can apply to your company.

Will accomplishing this goal make me happy and grateful that I did it?
Definitely. I don't remember why I never took business classes in college. Oh, right. Writer Dreams.

Which attribute am I good at will I be fully investing in if I pursue this goal?
Being an insufferable know-it-all. I am confident that I can rock my activations and strats, but if industry-recognized certification can bring me into Hemione levels of reinforcing that "I got this" then why not?

3. Lose weight

Honestly, being fat, or called fat, doesn't bother me. I've learned how to deal with relatives and their tactless observations of "Hija, what happened? You used to be so thin!" (Answer: "Tita, that's what happens when you work hard; you earn good money to pay for good meals"). I've stopped aspiring to fit into Forever 21 clothes lest I want to look like Hannah Horvath. I've come to embrace my inner Mindy Lahiri. It's just that when my health took a beating last February -- Flu of 2014 -- it's outright denial that my lovely lady lumps have nothing to do with it.

More Mindi Lahiri. Less Hannah Horvath.

THE GOAL: Lose 65 lbs. This is The Biggest Loser levels of weight loss, you guys!.

Sixty-five pounds ago. I am my own thinspiration.

Will accomplishing this goal make me happy and grateful that I did it?
I can't say I will miss my 65 excess pounds if I lose it, but I am not getting any younger. Also, this would make my parents very happy. I think they miss the old, morose, thin version of me versus this confident, hedonistic Mara that presents herself to them as of late, but I could be wrong. Maybe they just want me to live longer than them.

Which attribute am I good at will I be fully investing in if I pursue this goal?
I am secretly very competitive, but only with myself. I have come to realize that there is no better satisfaction than to up yourself. "Take that, Self!"


4. Not be too hard on myself.

In Getting Ahead in The Rat Race. I will choose the type of success that is important to me and not the type of success everyone expects me to have.  

In Keeping Up with the Joneses. I can be pretty materialistic. Can't blame me; I like shopping. But after some introspection, I realized that sometimes I'm just influenced by people around me to buy crap I don't really need. This year, I will think really hard before coveting something out of my means.

Eva Chen is my fashion icon.

In trying to define my signature style (if there is any). In music, in fashion, in preferences. So what if I am the girl that has fleeting-but-sometimes enduring hobbies? I like that I am a Jane of All Trades, that people wonder where I get the energy and the time to do my hobbies.

In trying to define this blog. I won't burden myself anymore with trying to find my niche. If item above is any indication, I will never find my niche. I have resolved that this blog is my way of putting myself out there - may it be to market myself, make me searchable and all that SEO shit, or just simply being comfortable enough in my own skin to share a part of me with anyone who will care to drop by. And that, Humanity, is my way of letting go of my selfishness.

How about you, guys? What do you resolve to do this 2014?

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Mara Ruiz said...

I love your goals! They are very realistic except for the saving 4-6 months worth of salary. I need to recalculate my 2014 budget! Gah! I hope to do that this year, too. With the losing weight part, I really believe it is possible. Although I lost mine in two years, not one.

Good luck on your goals this year, Mara!

Mara Ruiz said...

Hi, Jean! Thanks for dropping by and wishing me luck my goals!

I think I should correct myself and say "start saving 4-6 months worth of my salary." Although I did the math, if I don't buy anything I don't need (bags, wallets, etc) and if I don't do any major traveling, I might save up at least 4mo!

You lost a LOT OF WEIGHT! What did you do? Cardio? Diet? Please share!

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