|Not my actual goals. Source.|
So it took me a while to come up with my resolutions for the new year because I don't want to be caught up in the sentiments of turning a new leaf and making new goals. I also want to examine myself first to know what I want to accomplish for 2014 because really, at the end of it all, it's all about what makes you happy, right?
Do I really want to lose weight by doing workout plans or crash diets that do not make me happy? No.
Do I want to get ahead in the rat race regardless if I take a route that does not feed my passion? Definitely not.
Do I want to join the bandwagon and dream of New York and Paris even if I have no genuine interest to travel there yet? Nope.
Do I really want to save up for a designer handbag? Why?
After reading Kelly McGonigal's TED Talks transcript saying that "People come up with resolutions that don’t reflect what matters most to them, and that makes them almost guaranteed to fail," I have resolved first and foremost to fail-proof my year, as much as I can, by Doing Things That Makes Me Happy. Kelly goes on to say "The best resolutions are ones that strengthen something you already are, but you may not have been fully investing in."
I hear ya, Kelly. So for 2014, I resolve for my goals to answer these three prerequisites before I pursue them.
Because, come on, knowing your music is a noble goal, but if you're not going to aim to write for Rolling Stone, there's really no point.
What makes me happy?
What am I good at that I haven't been fully investing in?
At the end of 2014 — on January 1st, 2015, looking backwards — what am I seriously going to be grateful that you did?
So what do I firmly resolve to do this 2014?